Fear freezes your ability to be straightforward
When we are scared, nervous or afraid, we shut out the outside world. We become less open and transparent. Instead of accepting our true selves and admitting that we are afraid, we put up a wall designed to keep out the truth.
We lose sight of the importance of being straightforward and honest.
Fear can undermine openness and honesty in anyone, including myself.
Like many parents, I tend to think my children should be perfect.
When I was afraid that my daughter was not working hard enough and I let her know, she withdrew from me and put up a wall.
The truth was I was the problem.
When I realized how negative I was being, I had to remind myself to have a caring mindset. I invited her to go for a walk. We had a great time and an even better discussion, where I realized how much she had accomplished.
I was no longer afraid that she might not be all she could be. The wall between us began to crumble because neither of us were afraid to be straightforward.
Fear had driven us from each other. Honesty brought us back together.
What walls have you built because you were afraid?
One of the world’s pre-eminent experts on quality and process improvements, Subir Chowdhury is the #1 international bestselling author on SIX SIGMA philosophy. Hailed by The New York Times as a “leading Quality expert,” and by Business Week as “the Quality Prophet”, he is the author of 15 books. His latest book THE DIFFERENCE: When Good Enough Isn’t Enough (Crown Business, 2017) made it to the USA Today Bestseller list as well as National Bestseller in India. In 2017, India’s prestigious Indian Institute of Technology (IIT) Kharagpur established the ‘Subir Chowdhury School of Quality and Reliability’ – the first of its kind in Asia. He is the Chairman and CEO of ASI Consulting Group and helped his clients save billions of dollars.